Thank you very much to everyone who has written to me asking me to adopt the Blueys. Many of you cited that I should do so for the sake of Bobby as the Blueys are very close to him and vice versa. I know this, as I'm right here watching them every day, but I cannot adopt the Blueys for many reasons, which I shall attempt to list down here:
1. My house is not ideal for raising kittens. My six are free-roaming, a "mistake" made five years ago when I was none the smarter. We thought we wanted them to be free, to climb trees and explore in the garden, not knowing cats would be curious and adventurous and may not be very street-smart. Since the are free-roaming, I now cannot barricade my windows as they come in and out freely. Then, we lost Pans, Kimba and Suki on the road and that's when I realised letting them be free-roaming was a mistake - this is not a natural world but a man-made one with fast-moving vehicles and humans who may not care very much about street animals' safety. However, I could not confine my six anymore - Feline World War broke out in the house! This is also one of the reasons why we are moving soon, so that we can build a bigger cat-space at the back of our new house where the cats would be safer.
2. Cow, Bunny and Cleo are extremely alpha. Cow & Bunny chased their sister, Pole, out of the house four years ago. Pole has been living as a community cat ever since. Cleo chased her brother, Wolf, out and we never saw him ever again. I noticed this chasing always starts when the junior cat is about 5-6 months. That's when Cow, Bunny and Cleo find them a threat. Even now, there is some ongoing war between them. As such, how can I adopt another kitten?
3. Bunny and Tiger are FIV+. By right, I should not even bring in or foster another kitten, if you go by the book. I'm breaking the rules already, but only because I know Bunny and Tiger do not harm kittens. I also will only take in kittens if nobody else offers and there is no other option. I am not a fosterer, because I cannot be one.
4. Six cats is about all I can handle, financially, physically and emotionally. I know others can handle many more. I really take my hat off to them. But I cannot. I do so much AnimalCare work outside the house and it is unfair to growing kittens that they have to be locked in the room when I'm out. They need more attention, love and care, which I cannot provide sufficiently though I try my best. That is precisely why I started AnimalCare - I cannot keep adopting these animals as I have my limitations, so I provide a fund to help with the medical needs of animals and in this way, I hope to encourage other people to adopt and take care of the animals. I cannot help so many animals directly, so I extend my help to those who can - the rescuers, fosterers and adopters.
5. I do not live alone. I have to respect the wishes of my family members too, and for them, six is enough. Cow & Bunny's territorial spraying intensifies each time I bring home kittens to foster. That's the way they are and I cannot do anything about it. Last year, due to so much fostering, I had to spend Rm5000 to re-paint the whole house. I cannot afford to do this every year!
6. Indy has run away from home now, though he is just five houses away, I cannot risk him running further. He is at the age where he feels jealous and threatened with the presence of any new kitten. Every day, I have to go down the road, hunt for Indy, and coax him to come back. From three houses away, he is now five houses away. I cannot risk losing Indy as he is my responsibility. Indy had a very bad start in life and his health condition is not very good (that is why I never got him adopted). He came from the drain with a bladder full of pus. The rescuer asked me to foster him for two weeks where I nursed Indy back to health, his life literally hanging by the thread (read Indy Jones and the 4 Pillars of Kindness) and the rescuer never took him back after that. Indy may have kidney problems too and is on RC Renal (special diet). He will not do very well as a stray. Cow, Bunny, Pole, Tiger, Cleo all ran away from home three years ago when I brought Felix back to foster. They only came back after I sent Felix to the vet's for boarding. Indy was the only one who kept Felix company (ironical, right?). This running away is real - it can happen. I have checked with my vet. I cannot risk Indy running away from home for good.
7. There is also one person who wrote to me condemning my family members for not allowing me to adopt the Blueys or for not supporting what I do. Goodness gracious me! Is that fair? I started AnimalCare, not my family. I am very thankful that they allow me to spend time away from home doing all that I do, raising funds for AnimalCare, giving public talks, rushing off to be at the vet's 24/7 or anytime there is any emergency, spending hours blogging the day's reports. They have allowed me to adopt Cow, Bunny, Pole, Tiger, Indy and Cleo, and previously, Vixey and Wii and a few others. They have allowed me to foster all the baby kittens who have gone through me despite them creating a mess (and lots of smells) in the house. They have also helped me a lot in everything that I do. The bottom line is, I do not expect my family members to participate in what I do. What I do is my passion, not theirs. They do their own things in life which interest them. It is good enough that they put up with everything that I do, which, infringes into the household. So, condemn me, if you must, but please leave my family out of the picture. When people tell me they cannot adopt animals because their parents object or their spouse objects, do you hear me condemning them? We may do what we like, but we cannot expect others to share our passion too. To each her own, please.
8. My back neighbour hates animals, the sight of any animal and all the sounds that animals make...so that adds on to my limitations too. They have reported me twice to the authorities. They threw things at Wii and shouted obscenities at him, that is why I had to get Wii adopted. I was afraid they'd kill Wii one day. This is also why we are moving away from this animal-hating neighbour.
9. Some of you say I'm not being fair to Bobby if I get the Blueys adopted. Maybe you have not followed my stories for the past five years. Bobby has helped me foster Cow, Bunny, Pole, Tiger, Cleo, Pans, Wolf, Vixey, Wii, Indy, Felix, Kimba, Suki, Joanie, Creamie, Crackers, the Orange Family of 4 kittens, Babykit, Prince, Simba, Bobtail, Teddy, Bandit, Xiao Li, Peanut, Butter, Jelly, Rex, Fox and Honeybear (the Sunnies), etc. Did I leave anyone out? I may have. So, I think Bobby is able to savour and enjoy the moment, and let go when the time comes. I believe he has learnt. After all, he has the sixsome to help him around now, and amongst them, only Cow, Bunny and Tiger take care of him. Truth be told, Bobby is an extremely loyal dog, and I think he is doing this because of me. He would do anything to please me. So, when I foster kittens, he does it too.
I only offered to foster the Blueys because Bagheera was not eating and was totally emaciated and dehydrated when they were picked up from the drain. I did not offer to adopt because I know I cannot.
SO, having written all this, I plead for your understanding (please don't ask me to adopt the Blueys, I would if I could) and hope you will instead help me find a good home for them. Parting with them will be sad for me, but that would be something I have to do due to my own limitations.
Thank you for your kind understanding.
The other reason I'm writing this terribly long-winded post is so that we all empathise that everyone has his/her own limitations. I hear rescuers condemning others for not doing what they do, ie. you ONLY have six, I have thirty, or, why can't so-and-so adopt the dog, she has a big enough house and she isn't even working, etc, etc. Sometimes people do not explain their reasons to us, but they have their own personal reasons. We have to respect others who say "no" to what we might readily say "yes" to. And we should not make their lives difficult just because they do not do what we do.
Live and let live, please.