Sunday, October 4, 2009

Thank you to all of Vixey's (and my) friends



Do you know, all my life, I've never had this many animal-loving friends who could empathise with how I feel about animals until I started AnimalCare? 

In the past, whenever one of my pets passed away, or got lost, and I was grieving or going all out to do everything possible, most of my friends would chide me for going overboard. 

"Let go", they would say.  "Don't be attached!", "Be equanimous" - these are the usual things I would hear time and again.  It is very hurtful to hear such remarks though it could very well be "good" advice.  "Good advice" given at the wrong time may very well turn out to be "not so good", after all.  

I am grateful that one of the benefits that have come out of starting AnimalCare is that all of us who think and feel alike can come together on the same platform to share and care, not only for the animals, but also for ourselves.  

I am extremely grateful to all of you for having shared these very challenging days with me.  Thank you for all your emails, text messages and comments on the postings.  

Everyone of you has been very, very kind.  And for once, I do not need to hear those usual remarks of asking me to let go, be equanimous and be unattached. 

I will let go, when I'm ready to let go.  But before that happens, please allow me to grieve for awhile. 

We may come from different religious and cultural background, but as animal-lovers, we all belong to one universal religion - KINDNESS.  

Isn't that enough?

3 comments:

YenLing said...

Dear Dr. Chan,

You have every right to cry and pour out your grieve. I totally understand how and what you are going through. I have take in and care for various animals found - hamster, rabbits, cats, dogs. When each of them left me. I cry and wail. I cry on the main road when I lost my cat a year ago.

Crying means we are human. We are alive and have emotions. Though we have so many pets but each one has a character of its own. Same but different.

Do grieve and be strong. Live goes on. Death always teaches me Life. Vixey lives on in yours and ours memory. She will always have a place in your heart.

Vix is a great cat. I remember after a while she came out to the hall to say hello to me. She sat around for some time too.

She will still be on the reuter when you do your work in hers/yours room.She is there. You will know and sense her. =).

Take care.

Many more animals still needs your kind and generous care.

YenLing said...

Dear Dr. Chan,

You have every right to cry and pour out your grieve. I totally understand how and what you are going through. I have taken in and cared for various animals found - hamster, rabbits, cats, dogs. When each of them left me. I cry and wail. I cried on the main road when I lost my cat a year ago.

Crying means we are human. We are alive and have emotions. Though we have so many pets but each one has a character of its own. Same but different.

Do grieve and be strong. Life goes on. Death always teaches me Life. Vixey lives on in yours and our memory. She will always have a place in your heart.

Vix is a great cat. I remember when I brought Suki to your house, after a while Vixey came out to the hall to say hello to me. She sat around for some time too.

She will still be on the router when you do your work in hers/yours room.She is there. You will know and sense her. =).

Take care.

Many more animals still need your kind and generous care.

Anonymous said...

It was a shock for me when I opened up your blog and found out that Vixey is gone, 2 days after I read your post about she was in better shape. Being as a buddhist in my heart, Vixey is no longer suffer with her illness now, and she already reborn probably to a more greatess live. I always and have to think like that when my love ones passed away, be it human or my pet or strays that I care of.

Crying or grieving aren't wrong too, it is a way for us to relief our sadness and tension, I cried at the Vet clinic when my old pet dog had to put to sleep, I cried when our Ah Girl put to sleep due to distemper, I cried when my stray cat passed away due to poisoned when I was 10 years old, I cried when I heard my mum told me one of our stray dog was shot by the 'authority' and many many more, these shows that we have a heart of compassion and kindness, it doesn't seems wrong to me if we cried.

And farewell lil Vixey, we will miss u very very much, and we shall meet you again sometime, somewhere.

and take care yourself too, Kah Yein.

loves,
joogyee